


The Build a Relationship with Yourself Toolkit
MOTIVES
Motives represent the internal desires, needs, beliefs, or goals that drive a person's behavior. They delve into the underlying reasons behind why individuals act the way they do, encompassing a complex interplay of personal, social, cultural, and psychological influences. Motives can be both conscious and unconscious, shaping our thoughts, emotions, and actions without our immediate awareness. Understanding motives provides valuable insight into human behavior, revealing the deeper motivations that propel individuals towards certain actions or decisions.
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Why am I doing this? Delve into the core reason behind your actions or decisions.
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What is driving my desire to [insert action or decision]? Identify the specific factors or motivations propelling you toward a particular action or choice.
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What am I hoping to achieve or accomplish through this? Direct your focus towards the goals or outcomes you expect from your actions.
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What emotions or feelings are associated with my actions or choices? Explore the emotional context surrounding your motives, as emotions often play a significant role in decision-making.
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Is there something I am seeking or trying to avoid? Consider whether your motives are driven by seeking rewards or avoiding negative consequences.
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Do my past experiences or childhood have any influence on my motives? Think about how your past may have shaped your current motives and behaviors.
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What are my core values, and do they align with my motives? Examine whether your motives are consistent with your deeply held values and principles.
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Am I seeking recognition, approval, or validation from others? Explore whether external validation or the opinions of others play a role in your motives.
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Are there any fears or insecurities influencing my motives? Investigate whether fear or self-doubt might be motivating your actions.
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Do I have any hidden or subconscious motives that I may not be aware of? Consider the possibility that underlying or unconscious factors could be driving your motives.
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How do my motives relate to my long-term goals and aspirations? Connect your current motives with your broader life objectives and ambitions.
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Am I acting out of habit, tradition, or societal pressure? Explore whether your motives might be influenced by conformity to societal norms or personal routines.
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What are the potential consequences of my motives, both positive and negative? Consider the potential outcomes and impacts of your motives on yourself and others.
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Have my motives evolved or changed over time, and if so, why? Reflect on how your motives may have shifted or evolved as you've grown and experienced life.
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Do my motives align with my personal growth and well-being? Assess whether your motives support your personal development and overall well-being.
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Is there a deeper purpose or meaning behind my actions or choices? Explore whether there is a more profound sense of purpose or meaning driving your motives.
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Am I considering the impact of my motives on others and my relationships? Think about how your motives may affect your interactions and relationships with others.
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Have I explored alternative motives or ways of achieving the same goal? Consider whether there are alternative motives or approaches that might be more suitable or ethical.
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What role does empathy and compassion play in my motives? It encourages you to examine whether empathy and compassion for others influence your motives.
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How can I ensure that my motives are aligned with my authentic self and values? Think about strategies or actions you can take to ensure that your motives align with your true self and core values.